Dear Me…You’re 30,

{a note to self about myself}

I know you’ve been tripped up about this birthday. I know you’ve dug in your heels and refused to advance to the next decade. There’s something freaky about 30’s, and I get that.  You’re afraid of gray hair (yes, Katy, they’re there.), $100 hair appointments, slowing metabolism, and mom jeans.  You’re  afraid, just plain…afraid!

But listen here, girl, turning thirty doesn’t mean you can’t be cool…what ever made you think you were in the first place? You can still hang with Brandi when she’s in town and listen to Mumford and Sons. Things don’t have to change now…get out of your funk.

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Just think…maybe all those friends that tell you “life only gets better in your 30’s” are right. Maybe they’re not just trying to make you feel good. Maybe it does get better.  I know there’s just something about 20’s that makes you feel fearless and alive, but who knows…maybe 30’s will feel like that only with better jobs and more money.  Hey…it’s possible.  Just this year alone has held oodles of adventure and new experiences…maybe 30 will blow your doors off. 

Just trust yourself.  Trust the knowledge you’ve gained in 30 years.  Reread some of your old journals today and see how less dumb you are now than when you were 21.  Sure, there might be some gray hairs up there, but each one came with wisdom, I’d like to think.  Also, if you keep pulling them out I hear 3 more grow back…just sayin’.

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Your laugh lines mean something. Your 10 gray hairs…that crease between your eyebrows.  You’ve lived life up in here.  You’ve made a home for Jarrod and three kids….hell, you carried three kids.  That’s 27 months of carrying around babies in there…that’s worth at least one wrinkle.

Here’s my conclusion to all this.  Aging, though it might seems scary on a big birthday, means something.  It’s worth it. If you can look behind 29 years and see friendships, memories, traditions, meaningful moments, emotion…that makes it worth it.

Chin up, buttercup…you’re gonna kick your 30’s derriΓ¨re.

Your Logical Self


  1. 3 things:

    1. Happy Birthday!!!! Looks like you had an awesome day (per instagram), and you deserve it!!
    2. 30's are definitely better. I used to care WAY to much what other people thought. I had people tell me that would go away as I got older, and darn it…they were right!? Amazing and freeing. Although…I'm still working on it. But I've still got 5 1/2 years of my 30s. πŸ™‚
    3. Pretty sure you've become my favorite blogger. Just sayin'. Does that make me sound creepy?? πŸ˜‰

  2. Happy Birthday to you, Alicia-friend! You are a crazy beautiful 30-year-old (golly, that picture!) and have some serious wisdom brewing in that lovely head. I was little freaked out about 30 this year too…I think that's where the pigtails came in ;). Hope you had a beautiful day.
    Love you! Cailan

  3. I love this!
    I am looking forward to 30…but first I need to look forward to 28 and 29….just writing that seems surreal. Silly numbers…they don't represent how I feel, I am going to think forever young!
    You are stunning inside and out!
    Happy Birthday!

  4. you are right, it is gonna be awesome!! have a wonderful day, alicia. you are a beautiful person, inside and out, and there are wonderful things to come!!

    ps- i'm with becky, my 30th feels(was) sooo long ago. how's that for making you feel young? ; )

  5. A{freakin}men sister!! You give great advice, you logical self is very…logical:) keep her around. And have a very merry birthday:)

  6. Happy Birthday, Alicia! You're like a fine wine πŸ˜€ I think the reason we get along so well is that you're 21 at heart, and I think you always will be. You just rock like that! Have a great day!

  7. Happy Birthday pretty lady! I have a feeling you will rock every age!
    I however, freaked out when I turned 35 because that is the last age(at least on surveys where you check 18-35) where you are considered a young adult. Ha!
    I hope you are enjoying your day! xo

  8. Thank you for that! I really needed something to make me see the upside of 30, since I will be leaving my 20's behind in a week! I hope you have a wonderful Birthday and I truly enjoy reading your posts! God Bless!!

  9. Yeah.. my 37th is just around the corner and girl… the 30's have ROCKED. I have LOVED Them… so many reasons… so many good things… yes my metabolism has slowed… so yeah that part does suck but the rest of it has been so good! Happy BIRTHDAY sweet girl.

  10. 30 so much will happen it is fast and fun you will take in much more then ever, thank goodness for a good colorist, have a great day! I am so glad that you are taking the day off with your husband that is one of my tradition to take my b-day off.
    Happy Birthday to you!

  11. Happy Birthday to you!! Your thirties are going to be great. I think it's a time where you realize more about who you are and what you want to do in life. Oh, and let me just say, don't worry about a few gray hairs and a wrinkle or two…30 is so YOUNG! Hope you have an amazing day πŸ™‚

  12. Happy 30th Alicia! You are one gorgeous thirty year old! My 36th birthday is a few weeks from now and let me tell you being on the downward slope to forty isn't fun. But just the other day I was telling my husband how these were our golden years…not the old golden but the good golden. I said I would never go back to my early twenties…any twenties for that matter! I like who I am now so much better now even though I miss my flat tummy and skinny thighs of my twenties! So the best s yet to come for you…hope your day is joy filled!

  13. happiest of birthdays to you sweet friend!
    you're right, 30 IS going to be awesome!!!
    i'll be praying that today is blessed and that you are surrounded with lots of love.
    knowing you has totally blessed my socks off and i thank the Lord for this day, His day…YOUR day!

  14. Oh how I love you dear friend! You are the COOLEST 30 year old I know. Hope you have a super day FULL of pampering! Wish I could be there to celebrate with you. Just know that I am thinking of you and praying for you.

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!

  15. Dear Alicia,
    For as long as I've known you, you have not wanted to turn 30. I think I met you when you were 21. That's a long time to dread something. Now it's here. And it will be wonderful because you are wonderful. You are beautiful and fun and have an awesome husband who adores you. You are smart and sexy and sassy. You are creative and crazy at times too. And damn young, if you ask me. I love you, my sweetest friend ever. You have so many good things to look forward to. Happy birthday to you.

  16. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! I'm about to turn 34 and I will tell you from my experience turning 30 was a major turning point for me. Over the last 3 years, I have finally started feeling more comfortable in MY SKIN, not caring so much what others think and REALLY appreciating my life! Be proud you are 30! You have accomplished so much! Have a great day.

  17. Happiest Birthday to YOU!!!

    You really will love this next decade….you'll learn more, you'll love more, & you'll live more! It'll be awesome.

    You'll figure out more and more who you are…you'll keep fighting hard to have a strong marriage in the midst of raising those 3 amazing kids!

    You'll grasp a little more how wide and high and deep and long God's love for you is…and you'll spread it all around you…..

    You just wait…it's gonna be wonderful.

    Celebrating with you today from Athens!

    ahem…remind me of all of this come next June when I hit 40 square in the eye. πŸ™‚

  18. Dear Logical Self…30 is awesome!! You will definitely rock it. No need to worry and cause any more gray hairs;) Happy happy bIRthDay my beautiful friend. I love you! Keep me young okay? My 30th seems like a million years ago.

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